So I have been watching the first season of Girlfriends. I loved this show back in the day. However, I was only fourteen and had no clue about the issues this show discussed. Now being a sexy thirty, I see, Joan was a dumb ass. From the beginning and til’ the freaking end. Her obsession with trying to control every aspect of her life was exhausting.
It got me to thinking, am I like that? Do I want everything to go my way and if it does not I chalk it up as a “not meant to be” rather than, having patience? My thirties years on earth will be coming to an end in less than three months. I will be, God willing, officially in my thirties. Granted I have definitely put a dent into owning my purpose but I have to admit I still have a lot of work to complete.
If memory serves me correct, Joan at one point lost it all. The man, friends, and career. I never want to be in the predicament. Looking at this show now I see why it wasn’t always showing black women in the best light. I guess that’s why I have a problem with Being Mary Jane. How come black successful women can not be portrayed in loving marriages? Or even a healthy relationship? Do society only see us as women that sleep with married men, beg for someone to love us or some settling bitches that can barely keep a man?
Listen my motto is honesty is the best policy. Speaking and living in my truth every day makes me the strong women that wake up in the morning. Skeletons in the closet? You better believe it!! The only difference between TSJ five years ago and TSJ today, she would have been ashamed to admit them back then. No, I’m not perfect and never strive to be either. TSJ is just a too loud mouth, lovable, extra, and passionate black girl from the hood. Never allowed my surrounding nor circumstances dictate my future.